Wednesday, Jul 20, 2016
Peacemaker Chapter 10: Forgive as God Forgave You
Speaker: Todd Murray
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1. What Forgiveness is not

  • Natural to proud human hearts
  • A feeling, it’s a decision, a humble act of the will
  • Forgetting – forgetting is passive, forgiving is active!
  • Minimizing/excusing
  • A once and for all event
  • The removal of all consequences
  • Approval of sin
  • Equal to trust/reconciliation

2. What Forgiveness is:

Two key words in the New Testament:

Apheimi – to let go, release, pardon, spare, leave unpunished, leave/send away (Romans 4:7; James 5:15; 1 John 1:9; 1 John 2:12)

Charizomai – bestow favor undeservedly, generously, freely (Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 2:13; Colossians 3:13)


Therefore, biblical forgiveness is your:


Because of forgiveness bestowed on them

Because of Biblical mandate
(Matthew 6:14-15; Matthew 18:21-35; 2 Corinthians 2:7; Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13)


To continually decide

Both an even and an ongoing practice


to unconditionally

whether they ask or not


release those who wrong you from personal liability to yourself (Genesis 45:5, 8, 15; Genesis 50:15-21; 1 Peter 2:24)


and treat them as if you expect no personal payment. 


   Such forgiveness makes a commitment:

  1. Not to bring the offense up to myself
  2. Not to bring the offense up to others
  3. Not to bring the offense up to the offender to hurt them
  4. To pursue reconciliation wherever possible

3. The Standard of Forgiveness – God’s lavish, undeserved mercy and forgiveness

In what ways do I forgive like God?

  • Motivated by mercy, we can lavishly, graciously, generously relinquish claim on recompense.
  • We can set aside the offense, absorb the debt incurred by someone’ sin against us.
  • We desire the best for the offender

In what ways is God’s forgiveness distinct?

  • His forgiveness is permanent and once for all
  • His forgiveness is judicial and eternal
  • His forgiveness is that of a sinless judge of an unholy sinner
  • His forgiveness is grounded ultimately in His compassion, not sinners’ confessions

4. Common errors about forgiveness:

  • Conflating forgiveness with reconciliation
  • Conflating forgiveness with trust
  • Separating lack of bitterness from forgiveness

5. How is Forgiveness related to Reconciliation?

  • The goal of forgiveness is to restore a damaged relationship.
  • While the scriptures call us to give unilateral (“solo”) forgiveness even to those who have not asked for, acknowledge, or repent of their sin, in such cases, the fullness, joy and intimacy of a godly relationship will remain diminished. Intimate relationships are built on love and mutual trust.
  • Full Reconciliation/restoration of a relationship occurs when the offending party repents of their sin, acknowledges the damage done, attempts restitution where applicable, and seeks forgiveness of all who were affected by the sin.
  • 1 John 1:9 Though our sins have been permanently forgiven as a result of our faith in Christ’s gracious payment at the cross on our behalf, nevertheless, our fellowship with God is interrupted until we confess our sin.

Christians are the most forgiven people in the world. Therefore, we should be the most forgiving people in the world. ~ Ken Sande